FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

Why Understanding Your Attachment Style Isn’t Enough After Infidelity

Attachment theory is everywhere right now — anxious, avoidant, fearful, secure — but after infidelity, simply understanding your attachment style doesn’t stop the emotional whiplash.

In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle is joined by Bryan Power, a Certified Integrated Attachment Theory Coach, for an honest, grounded conversation about how attachment wounds actually show up after betrayal — and what it really takes to heal them.

Together, they break down the four attachment styles, explore why betrayal hits attachment at its core, and walk through the six pillars of Integrated Attachment Theory — practical tools that move you from survival and confusion into clarity, safety, and secure connection.

This episode goes beyond theory. You’ll learn why insight alone doesn’t regulate the nervous system, how subconscious wounds drive behavior, and what helps betrayed partners stop feeling “crazy” when triggers hit — without excusing betrayal or bypassing accountability.

If you’ve ever thought, “I know what’s happening — so why does it still hurt this much?” — this episode is for you.

 

Top 3 Takeaways

1. Knowing your attachment style doesn’t equal healing
   You can name your pattern perfectly and still panic when your partner withdraws. Healing happens through felt safety, not logic alone.
2. Betrayal exposes unhealed attachment wounds — in both partners
   Infidelity doesn’t come from nowhere. It often reveals deep subconscious beliefs around safety, abandonment, worth, and betrayal that were never healed.
3. Secure attachment is built — not born
   Through the six pillars of Integrated Attachment Theory — core wounds, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, and behavior — couples can move toward safety, clarity, and conscious connection.

 

Favorite Quote

“Attachment wounds don’t heal through understanding. They heal through safety — again and again — in real time.”

About Bryan

In 2024 Bryan Power and his wife would go from having a pretty good relationship to a complete relationship failure. That failure culminated with a restraining order his wife would put against him for her emotional safety. During that breakup time, Bryan would discover the Integrated Attachment Theory Program that would ultimately provide him with the insights and tools necessary to put their relationship back together. Now Bryan uses his inspirational story, personal insights and the integrated attachment theory program to teach others how to use their breakup the get the breakthroughs they have been looking for. 

Resources & Links

• https://www.myrelationshipfail.com/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanwpower/
• https://www.youtube.com/@myrelationshipfail
• https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipfail/

 

About Lora

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.

 

Resources & Links

• Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com
• Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com
• Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign
• Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle

 

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com

 

 

📌 Hashtags:

#betrayalrecovery #infidelityhealing #discoveryday #dday #affairrecovery #betrayaltrauma #healingafterinfidelity #rebuildingtrust #discernment #sovereignty #identityafterbetrayal #nervoussystemhealing #traumainformedcoaching #hypnotherapy #flauntpodcast #loracheadle

The Real Reason Betrayal Feels Like an Emotional Roller Coaster (and What to Do About It)

One minute you’re steady. Clear. Even hopeful.
And the next minute you hear their name… see a movie scene… hit an anniversary… and you’re right back on the floor wondering, What is wrong with me?

Nothing is wrong with you.

In this episode, I break down the real reason betrayal feels like an emotional rollercoaster—and why those swings don’t mean you’re failing. You’ll learn the difference between knowledge (understanding what happened) and integration (your nervous system actually living from safety again), why relief can feel like healing (even when it isn’t), and what it truly takes to calm the spirals for good—so you can stop questioning your progress and start rebuilding steady self-trust.

 

Top 3 Takeaways

1. Feeling better isn’t the same as being healed.
   Insight can bring real relief—but relief can masquerade as completion. That “aha” moment is knowledge… not integration.
2. Triggers don’t mean you’re back at square one.
   Hearing the affair partner’s name, seeing a text, watching a movie scene—those reactions aren’t proof you’re broken. They’re proof your body is still learning safety.
3. Integration is where healing actually happens.
   Healing lives in your moment-to-moment responses: how you regulate, what you say, what you choose, and how you show up when your system is activated.

Who This Episode Is For

• Women who feel steady one day and wrecked the next, and don’t understand why
• Listeners who’ve read the books, binged the podcasts, gone to therapy… and still feel “better only sometimes”
• Anyone who keeps thinking, “Why am I still triggered?” and wants a grounded explanation that doesn’t pathologize them
  
  

Favorite Quote

“Calm is not the same as change. Knowledge lives in the mind—integration lives in the body.”

 

About Lora

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.

 

Resources & Links

• Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com
• Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com
• Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign
• Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle

 

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com

 

 

📌 Hashtags:

#betrayalrecovery #infidelityhealing #discoveryday #dday #affairrecovery #betrayaltrauma #healingafterinfidelity #rebuildingtrust #discernment #sovereignty #identityafterbetrayal #nervoussystemhealing #traumainformedcoaching #hypnotherapy #flauntpodcast #loracheadle

The Moment Everything Breaks: Why Betrayal Isn’t the End of Your Story

The moment you find out—the text, the confession, the lie collapsing in real time—can feel like the defining moment of your life.
The shattering. The before and after.
But what if that moment isn’t your identity… and it’s not your story?
What if it’s a threshold—where illusion collapses so you can finally choose truth, agency, and who you become next?

In this episode, Lora Cheadle reframes discovery day (D-Day) as a threshold moment—not the event that defines you, but the doorway that returns you to truth. Betrayal is destabilizing, painful, and deeply disorienting, yet it also reveals what you could not previously see: where you’ve been living inside an illusion, what’s real now, and what you’re no longer willing to tolerate.

Through personal storytelling and grounded reflection, Lora shares how healing isn’t a single breakthrough—it’s the life you rebuild through truth, boundaries, discernment, and conscious choice. This episode will help you stabilize after the shattering, re-anchor in your body, and begin seeing what’s possible beyond survival.

Top 3 Takeaways

1. The shattering isn’t the story—it’s the doorway.
   Discovery day is the moment you can no longer live inside an illusion. It hurts deeply—but it’s also the moment truth becomes available and choice becomes possible.
2. You can choose again—at any point.
   Your first response doesn’t have to be your forever identity. Healing happens through repeated, conscious choices as your agency returns step by step.
3. Real safety comes from truth, not hope.
   Betrayal collapses illusions about who your partner is, what they’re capable of, and what you’ve been carrying. Discernment begins when you clearly see reality and decide what you are—and are not—willing to live with.

Favorite Quote

“It’s not the moment that breaks that matters. It’s what you do after the shattering—again and again—that becomes your story.”

About Lora

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.

 

Resources & Links

• Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com
• Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com
• Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign
• Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle

 

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com

 

 

📌 Hashtags:

#betrayalrecovery #infidelityhealing #discoveryday #dday #affairrecovery #betrayaltrauma #healingafterinfidelity #rebuildingtrust #discernment #sovereignty #identityafterbetrayal #nervoussystemhealing #traumainformedcoaching #hypnotherapy #flauntpodcast #loracheadle

Can Astrology Help You Heal After Infidelity? Birth Charts, Moon Signs & Soul Lessons (with Vanya Banks)

When betrayal shatters your reality, your brain wants answers: Why did this happen? Why me? What am I supposed to do now?
This episode offers a grounded, empowering lens—astrology as an energetic language—to help you understand patterns, rebuild self-trust, and move forward without giving your power away.

Lora sits down with professional astrologer Vanya Banks (AstroBloom) for a refreshingly real conversation about what astrology actually is (and what it’s not). Together they explore how birth charts can illuminate subconscious patterns, attachment dynamics, nervous system needs, and “soul lessons”—especially in the wake of infidelity or betrayal. You’ll hear practical ways to use astrology for self-awareness, healing, ritual, and relationship insight, plus a grounded take on Mercury retrograde that replaces fear with clarity.

 

Top 3 Takeaways

1. Astrology isn’t fate—it’s insight. It reveals influences, patterns, and possibilities so you can make conscious choices (not excuses).
2. Your Moon sign is a powerful healing tool. It can show how you seek safety, what soothes your nervous system, and where boundaries and self-nurturing matter most—especially after betrayal.
3. Retrogrades are review seasons, not doom seasons. Mercury retrograde is an invitation to reassess communication and alignment—without handing your power over to “pop astrology.”

 

Favorite Quote

“Astrology brings the unconscious to the surface—so you can choose consciously instead of calling it fate.”

About Vanja Banks

Vanja Banks is an Astrologer, Soul Alchemist, and Embodiment Guide who supports women in awakening their soul remembrance, body wisdom, and cosmic magic through the portals of astrology, Tantra, and alchemy.

After walking through profound personal losses - including the ending of a 14-year marriage and the dissolution of a life she’d built - Vanja was initiated by grief. What began as heartbreak became a sacred descent into self-remembering.

Through astrology’s archetypal language and the somatic rituals of Tantra - the sacred art of presence & embodiment - she found a roadmap back to wholeness, learning that grief is not something to “get over,” but a living current that reshapes us into more awake, tender, and embodied versions of ourselves.

Today, she guides others through this same alchemy - transforming grief into growth, loss into liberation, and emotion into embodied wisdom.

Website:  Astrology Readings | Ritual Tools | Astrobloom
Instagram: @astrobloom.ca
Astrobloom Podcast: Youtube | Other Platforms
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About Lora

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.

 

Resources & Links

• Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com
• Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com
• Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign
• Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle

 

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com

 

 

📌 Hashtags:

#BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityHealing #BetrayalTrauma #WinterSolsticeRitual #DarkNightOfTheSoul #SubconsciousHealing #WomenHealingAfterInfidelity #NervousSystemRegulation #SpiritualHealing #LoraCheadle #FLAUNTPodcast

 

Longing After Betrayal: Grieving the Future You Thought You’d Have

Longing After Betrayal: Grieving the Future You Thought You’d Have

There’s a very specific ache that shows up after betrayal—especially during the holidays. It’s not just missing a person. It’s grieving the future you thought you were building…and the version of you who once believed in it. In this episode, we talk about longing—not as a problem to fix, but as a signal of healing, a doorway back to self-trust, and a gentle bridge into what’s next.

 

Longing after betrayal can feel confusing and even scary—because wanting, hoping, and believing once led to pain. But longing isn’t weakness, and it doesn’t mean you’re stuck or that you “made a mistake.” In this episode, Lora Cheadle explores why the holidays amplify longing (hello, Hallmark movies), why longing is often grief and love intertwined, and how longing can become a powerful compass back to self-trust. You’ll learn how to honor the future you lost without rushing into a new one, and you’ll be guided through a presencing practice and intentional silence to help regulate your nervous system and listen inward. Plus, Lora invites you into her $26 Vision Board Workshop on January 10—a gentle, guided container to help you reconnect with what still matters and shape what comes next without pressure.

 

Top 3 Takeaways

1. 1. Longing doesn’t mean you want your old life back—it means something meaningful mattered. You’re not “doing it wrong” if you ache; you’re human, and you’re grieving a future you imagined.
   
   

1. 2. After betrayal, many women don’t stop trusting others—they stop trusting themselves to want again. Avoiding longing isn’t failure; it’s protection that hasn’t been updated yet.

 

1. 3 Longing can become a compass when you stop trying to resolve it. Instead of asking “What do I want next?” try asking, “What does my longing still care about?”—and let that guide you gently forward.

 

Favorite Quote

“Longing isn’t asking you to go backwards—it’s asking you to acknowledge how far you’ve come.”

About Lora

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.

 

Resources & Links

• Download your free Betrayal Recovery Guide: it’s linked in the show notes (or visit betrayalrecoveryguide.com).
  
  
• Join me for my $26 Vision Board Workshop (Jan 10): a gentle, guided container to sit with your longing, listen inward, and shape what comes next—without pressure. Register at flourishafterinfidelity.com.
  
  
• Want personal support and a path forward that integrates mind, body, and soul? Explore coaching options at https://loracheadle.com/coaching or learn about the Rise & Reign 6-month mentorship at https://loracheadle.com/riseandreign.
  
  
• Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle

 

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com

 

 

📌 Hashtags:
#BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityHealing #HealingAfterInfidelity #BetrayalTrauma #EmotionalHealing #SelfTrust #NervousSystemHealing #SomaticHealing #HolidayTriggers #GriefAndHealing #WomenHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #FLAUNTPodcast #LifeChoreography #VisionBoardWorkshop

 

Stop Saying “I Just Want to Heal” — Define What Healing Means in 2026 (After Infidelity)

If you’ve been saying, “I just want to heal,” or “I just want to feel like myself again,” this episode is your loving wake-up call: those phrases are too vague to carry you where you want to go.

Healing happens faster—and feels safer—when you get specific about what you’re actually birthing next.

In this episode, Lora opens with a powerful 4-minute “next-level you” practice designed to shift your energy from surviving to creating. Then she breaks down why “I just want to heal” often keeps you stuck—and how to replace it with clear, embodied direction. You’ll learn how to define what healing means for you (peace of mind, confidence, boundaries, financial stability, emotional safety), how to create the structure that makes success almost inevitable, and how to stay flexible when life pivots. Plus, Lora shares a real-life story about preparing to attend a funeral where her husband’s former affair partner may be present—and how conscious planning creates safety, connection, and dignity.

Top 3 Takeaways

1. The universe—and your nervous system—respond to specificity. “I want to heal” becomes powerful when you define what healing looks like in real life: fewer obsessive thoughts, better sleep, stronger boundaries, emotional regulation, self-trust.
   
   
2. You don’t have to control the outcome to direct your life. Some desires need “hard-no” boundaries; others need “surprise party energy” where you stay open to support arriving in unexpected forms.
   
   
3. Structure creates success. Goals aren’t just wishes—they’re supported by plans: the right people, tools, rehearsed responses, and simple tracking that helps you notice progress (and adjust when something isn’t working).

 

Favorite Quote

“You are not supporting cast in your own life. This is your life—and you are the main character.”

About Lora

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.

 

Resources & Links

• Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com
• Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com
• Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign
• Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle

 

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com

 

 

📌 Hashtags:

#BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityHealing #BetrayalTrauma #WinterSolsticeRitual #DarkNightOfTheSoul #SubconsciousHealing #WomenHealingAfterInfidelity #NervousSystemRegulation #SpiritualHealing #LoraCheadle #FLAUNTPodcast

 

Rewriting D-Day After Infidelity: Winter Solstice Ritual to Heal Betrayal Trauma & Stop Obsessive Thoughts

What if you could go back and prepare for D-Day? Not to stop the betrayal from happening, but to soften the blow, steady your nervous system, and walk yourself through the darkest night of your soul with reverence, support, and a plan.

In this deeply soulful Solstice episode, Lora guides you through a powerful re-imagining of D-Day using the energy of the winter solstice — the longest, darkest night of the year. Instead of bracing against the pain of betrayal, you’ll learn how to “pack your bag” for the dark night of the soul: tending your body, nervous system, and subconscious so you can move through the darkness with preparation, not panic.

Drawing on childbirth metaphors, subconscious re-patterning, and the natural arc from winter solstice to summer solstice, Lora walks you step-by-step into the memory of D-Day and back out again — this time as the woman you are now: wiser, more resourced, and no longer alone. You’ll leave with a six-month roadmap for healing, micro-boundaries to support your body and soul, and a new understanding of why you’re not broken… you’re just ready for a different map.

 

Top 3 Takeaways

1. Why D-Day still hijacks your body (and how to change it)

• How betrayal trauma locks into the subconscious mind and nervous system, and why you can’t just “decide to stop ruminating” or think your way out of it.

The Winter Solstice Betrayal Ritual: Preparing for the Dark Night of the Soul

• How to “pretend” solstice is your D-Day, pack your metaphoric bag, and consciously walk yourself into the darkness with support, tools, and reverence — so your body learns that you can bear it and you will come out the other side.

From Winter Solstice to Summer Solstice: A Six-Month Healing Map

• How to set micro-boundaries, tiny daily practices, and structures of accountability that quietly rewire your life over six months — so one day you look up and realize, “It’s lighter now. I’m actually okay… and I’m not obsessing anymore.”

 

Favorite Quote

“The real tragedy of betrayal isn’t the betrayal itself. It’s failing to rise up afterward and reclaim your heart, your soul, your identity.”

 

About Lora

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.

 

Resources & Links

• Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com
• Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com
• Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign
• Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle

 

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com

 

 

📌 Hashtags:

#BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityHealing #BetrayalTrauma #WinterSolsticeRitual #DarkNightOfTheSoul #SubconsciousHealing #WomenHealingAfterInfidelity #NervousSystemRegulation #SpiritualHealing #LoraCheadle #FLAUNTPodcast

 

Stop Controlling. Start Directing: The Shift That Heals Your Life After Betrayal

Most women think they’re “taking control,” but what they’re actually doing is managing chaos from a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe. Control is a trauma response. Direction is a soul response. And learning the difference changes everything about your healing, your power, and your relationships.

In this powerful solo episode, Lora breaks down the difference between controlling your life and directing your life—a distinction that is foundational to healing after infidelity or any form of deep emotional betrayal.

You’ll hear why control feels so intoxicating at first, why it becomes exhausting over time, and how it ultimately keeps you stuck in fear, hypervigilance, and over-functioning. Lora then guides you into the energetics of self-direction—what she calls a “soul response”—where clarity, empowerment, and healthy masculine/feminine balance begin to return.

Through personal stories, cultural context, nervous-system wisdom, and practical tools, Lora shows you how to stop managing the chaos and start leading your life again. If you’ve been stuck in fear, bracing, or trying to “fix” your partner, this episode will feel like a deep exhale.

 

Top 3 Takeaways

1. Control is always rooted in fear.

Over-monitoring, over-planning, over-functioning, micromanaging your partner’s behavior—all of it is a trauma response from a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe. It’s not a moral failing; it’s biology.

2. Self-direction is grounded clarity and expansion.

Instead of reacting, you choose your next right step based on who you want to be. You lead your life with healthy masculine structure and healthy feminine flow, instead of trying to force outcomes.

 

3. The Control-to-Direction Test Will Change Everything.

Ask yourself:

• Am I trying to control a person or outcome?
• Am I acting from fear or from clarity?
• Does this behavior feel braced or grounded?
• Is this action about who I want to be, or about preventing something from happening?
  These four questions reveal your truth instantly.

 

Loving this show? Ready to go deeper?

If you’re tired of controlling everything around you and you’re ready to finally feel safe, grounded, clear, and self-directed again, this is exactly what we do inside Rise & Reign, my six-month betrayal recovery mentorship.

It’s where women learn to lead their lives again—rebuilding identity, regulating their nervous system, reclaiming their truth, and making empowered decisions without fear.

👉 Apply or learn more: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign
👉 Book your $97 Introductory Session: https://introductorysession.com

Your healing is not about managing them.
It’s about finally choosing you.

 

Favorite Quote

“Whenever you try to control, you’re acting from fear. Whenever you direct your life, you’re acting from truth.”

 

About Lora

Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.

 

Resources & Links

• Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com
• Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com
• Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign
• Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle

 

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com

 

 

📌 Hashtags:

#InfidelityRecovery #BetrayalTrauma #EmotionalHealing #SelfLeadership #WomensHealing #NervousSystemHealing #RelationshipHealing #SomaticHealing #RiseAndReign #LifeChoreography #StopControllingStartDirecting #BetrayalRecovery

You Cheated. You’re Not a Monster. Here’s How to Understand Yourself and Become the Man You Meant to Be.

You’re not a monster because you cheated— you are a hurting human who never learned how to feel, name, and heal what’s going on inside. And understanding that and forgiving yourself is the key to rebuilding trust, whether you stay together or not.

This episode is a love letter—and a challenge—to the betrayer. Whether you’re the one who cheated or you’re the partner trying to understand how the person you love could hurt you so deeply, this conversation pulls back the curtain on what’s really going on inside the betraying partner. Lora shares honest, vulnerable insights from walking beside her husband through his infidelity, exploring why most men genuinely don’t know why they cheated, how shame and unresolved boyhood wounds fuel destructive coping, and what it actually takes to become trustworthy again. You’ll learn how to move from “I’m a monster” to “I made a devastating mistake—and I’m willing to change,” so both of you can stop walking on eggshells and start moving toward clarity, accountability, and healing.

 

Top 3 Takeaways

1. Why “I don’t know why I did it” is often true—just not the whole truth.
   Most betrayers genuinely don’t know the root cause of their cheating because they were never taught to identify or communicate their emotions. Until they can name what they’re feeling—rejection, shame, emasculation, grief—cheating will continue to be a maladaptive coping mechanism, not a “character flaw problem” to shame away.
2. Your actions don’t define your core—but your accountability does.
   There’s a profound difference between being a cheater and having cheated. Lora breaks down how to step out of the “cheater” identity and back into integrity through nervous system regulation, consistent follow-through (“do what you say you’ll do”), and small, repeated acts of honor that show you’re becoming truly trustworthy again.
3. Healing requires feeling it all—without fleeing, fixing, or deflecting.
   From the sticky note that said “Feel it all” to simple somatic practices like standing in your integrity, brushing off old attachments, and speaking from your gut instead of your head, you’ll learn concrete ways to sit with your own shame, regret, and pain and hold space for your partner’s rage and grief—without collapsing, defending, or running away.

 

👉 Book Your Private Session for Men, women, or couples HERE:  https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/men-s-session

If this episode spoke to you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs hope on their healing journey. Your voice helps other women (and men) find the support they deserve.

 

Favorite Quotes

“This isn’t about getting your wife to trust you again. It’s about becoming a man who is truly trustworthy—and honoring yourself enough to live that way.”

“You’re not a monster—you’re a human in pain who chose a harmful coping mechanism. Now the question is: who do you want to be from here?”

 

Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club

If this episode hit home, your next step is simple:

Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time.

You’ll:

• Work with practices from FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self
• Get tools to break your performance scripts and over-functioning habits
• Have space to decompress after Thanksgiving and prepare for the rest of the season in a different way
• Practice embodying presence so you can actually feel the joy you’re creating

👉 Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com

You don’t need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are.

 

🔗 Resources & Links

• 🌟 Free FLAUNT! Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1): TheFlauntBook.com
• 📘 FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self – available wherever books are sold
• 🧩 Free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com
• 🌐 Learn more about Lora’s coaching & programs: LoraCheadle.com

.

LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP

Don’t just listen—start healing.

 

Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are.

✅ Calm the chaos

✅ Rebuild self-trust

✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing

✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

👉 Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON)

You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.

 

📚 Books By Lora 📚

 

• International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021
  • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019

Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.
 
Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self.

Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose.

Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.

 

It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike.

 

Available on Amazon.

Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com 

From Performance to Presence: The Holiday Shift That Brings Back the Magic (Especially After Betrayal)

From Performance to Presence: The Holiday Shift That Brings Back the Magic (Especially After Betrayal)

 

What would it be like to actually feel the moment you’re working so hard to create?

In this powerful pre-Thanksgiving episode, Lora gets real about the way so many women — especially those healing after betrayal — kill themselves trying to stage the “perfect” holiday, only to feel numb, resentful, or empty inside.

From Hallmark-movie expectations to Norman Rockwell Thanksgivings, Lora unpacks how performance, perfectionism, control, and emotional over-functioning have been culturally trained into women… and how betrayal often ramps those patterns up even more.

You’ll learn why performance is actually a nervous system survival response (fawn/fix), how it quietly steals your joy, and what it means to shift into deep, grounded presence — so you can finally experience the love, connection, and magic you’ve been trying to manufacture for everyone else.

Just in time for the holidays, this episode is your invitation to stop chasing the moment… and start feeling it.

 

Top 3 Takeaways

1. Performance is how we manage love when we no longer trust it.
   After betrayal and in dysfunctional family systems, performance becomes protection. We over-do, over-give, and over-function to cover our fear that love, safety, or support won’t be there.
2. Performance is a nervous system response — presence is where the healing happens.
   Beyond fight/flight/freeze, Lora explains the “fourth F”: fawn/fix. That impulse to keep everyone happy, keep everything perfect, and pretend you’re fine is actually a trauma response that blocks creativity, intimacy, and joy.
3. Your joy was never stolen by betrayal — it was stolen by the patterns you learned before it.
   Betrayal doesn’t destroy your joy; it uncovers the truth about all the ways you’ve been stealing it from yourself through scripts, shoulds, and chronic performance. Presence is how you get it back.

 

Favorite Quotes

• “The harder we try to create the perfect experience, the further we drift from actually feeling it.”
• “Performance is how we manage love when we no longer trust it.”
• “Presence is our soul’s way of being felt.”
• “Your joy has not been stolen by betrayal. Betrayal simply uncovers the truth about the behaviors that were stealing your joy long before.”

 

Free FLAUNT! Holiday Reset & Book Club

If this episode hit home, your next step is simple:

Join Lora on December 1st for a free live FLAUNT! Book Club & Workshop — a Holiday Reset designed to move you from performance to presence in real time.

You’ll:

• Work with practices from FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self
• Get tools to break your performance scripts and over-functioning habits
• Have space to decompress after Thanksgiving and prepare for the rest of the season in a different way
• Practice embodying presence so you can actually feel the joy you’re creating

👉 Sign up free: TheFlauntBook.com

You don’t need to be “caught up” or have read the whole book. Just bring yourself, your copy, and a willingness to show up as you are.

 

🔗 Resources & Links

• 🌟 Free FLAUNT! Book Club + Workshop (Dec 1): TheFlauntBook.com
• 📘 FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self – available wherever books are sold
• 🧩 Free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit: BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com
• 🌐 Learn more about Lora’s coaching & programs: LoraCheadle.com