FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal
Overcoming Obsessive Thoughts After Infidelity – Solo Show

Overcoming Obsessive Thoughts After Infidelity – Solo Show

March 13, 2022

Whenever our brains have “open loops” aka unanswered questions, they automatically start searching for answers. They search and they search, and they search until they find answers for those questions so they can close the loop and move on. Until the brain finds a satisfactory answer, it keeps seeking answers. That’s why you are having obsessive thoughts. Here’s how to find peace and stop.

Top take-a-ways:

  • Understanding the difference between the need to process, find answers, and reclaim your story and indulging in unhealthy obsessive thoughts.
  • How to stop letting toxic thought high-jack your well-being so you can break out of the trauma and think clearly again.
  • The power of gratitude and top tips for calming down the nervous system and learning how to function healthily again.
  • Why obsessive thoughts can be the gateway to healing, understanding, and writing “the rest of the story.”

 

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Find Your Passion & Purpose -A 30-Minute Guided Meditation/Self-Hypnosis

Find Your Passion & Purpose -A 30-Minute Guided Meditation/Self-Hypnosis

March 9, 2022

The shocking truth about burnout is that it's not usually burnout. More often than not it's betrayal that causes you to feel cynical, disconnected, overwhelmed, and exhausted.

It's my hunch that, like me, the life you are living is a far cry from the life you thought you would live. Fairy tale fantasies aside, I'm fairly certain that none of us dreamed of living through a pandemic, a mortgage crisis, or a potential world war. Not to mention the onslaught of personal and professional heartbreak that we face - more often than we care to admit.

The first step in "managing burnout" is stop "managing burnout." Instead, re-frame your burnout in terms of betrayal. When you do, you will get clear of what you wanted or expected out of life versus what you actually got. Knowing this is empowering because it shows where you are:

  • Unclear about who you are, what you value, the legacy you want to create, and what you are willing to tolerate
  • Failing to create or enforce boundaries that support well-being while pursuing what brings you joy
  • Conflating what you do and accomplish with who you are and what you are inherently worth

Knowing where you are at and where you want to be is the essential first step in re-choreographing your life in a way that supports happiness and well-being. Stay tuned, this newsletter will help you get clear again. So you can move from exhausted to enthusiastic, cynical to optimistic, detached to engaged, ineffective to potent, and overwhelmed to overjoyed. No matter how "burned out" you feel right now.

Because, as I said earlier, it's probably not burnout. It's betrayal. And unlike burnout, betrayal can be addressed and healed for good. Leaving you with the kind of life you dreamed about before.

Curious? Try this 30-minute guided meditation/self-hypnosis on Finding Your Passion and Purpose.

And if you are ready for rapid change, I can help with that too! https://loracheadle.com/reclaim-your-power-and-own-your-worth-coaching-experience/

 

Lora Cheadle is an author, TEDx speaker, life, and leadership coach. She shows driven women how to move beyond soothing the symptoms of burnout and resolve the root cause, which oftentimes is betrayal. Whether that betrayal is from a person, system, changes in one’s body or health, or the realization that you’ve spent your life in service of a dream that was not your own, Lora show women leaders how to break free from burnout, reclaim their agency, and own their worth, so they can create a life they love before it’s too late. She is the creator of the Life Choreography® Life & Leadership Programs, It’s not Burnout; it’s Betrayal, and Advocate for What You Want after Infidelity or Betrayal. She is the author of the award-winning book, "FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy and Spiritual Self" and host of the top-rated podcast, “FLAUNT! Find Your Sparkle and Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal.”

Breathwork For Emotional Release – With R. Christian Minson

Breathwork For Emotional Release – With R. Christian Minson

March 6, 2022

Breath is the foundation of life, the doorway to multidimensionality, and how you breath determines how you feel on this human journey. Betrayal leads to a loss of trust, a loss of control, and a loss of flow. Breathwork is a tool that can help you regulate and calm your nervous system, relax and accept the present moment, and feel better fast. The choice is yours: You can either stumble through the forest or can find a path that will lead you through more easily. Let Breathwork be that path!

Top take-a-ways:

  • Understanding why all emotions have value and how to learn to trust your breath so you can relax and recover after infidelity or other emotional trauma.
  • Why every breath you take is either reinforcing negative emotional experiences or creating positive ones, and how to consciously repattern your life experience using breath.
  • How to move through and process the emotional backlog of bitterness, pain, and resentment post-betrayal.
  • The truth of Freud’s saying, “Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” and the necessity of releasing the cellular memory of trauma if you want to heal.
  • The secret reason we hold our breath, and how breath-holding is a suspension of life, a momentary death, where you don’t want to move forward and face what’s next.

Remember, whatever posture you meet life with, is how life will meet you! And as Michael Blair says, “It’s not about feeling better, it’s about getting better at feeling.” But once you do, you will feel better! What kind of life do you want to create?

R. Christian Minson is an International Speaker, Best-Selling Contributing Author, Trainer, Coach, and the Founder of Breathflow Wellness International, a world-renowned transformational holistic health and wellness platform to share the life-changing techniques of breathwork. A former Monk, Christian spent 10 years in the YogicMonastery of Self-Realization Fellowship,founded by Paramahansa Yogananda (author of Autobiography of a Yogi), in Los Angeles to serve as Yogananda’s instrument for the dissemination of his writings and teachings, including Kriya Yoga.

After years searching for deeper meaning of life in the Monastery, Christian now teaches and guides others to find meaning in their own personal and professional lives by delivering inspiration and practical real-world tools that result in higher levels of vibration, creation, alignment, fulfillment and performance. Christian was formerly the Resident Director of the Breathwork Program at RYTHMIA Life Advancement Center in Costa Rica, specializing in fusing ancient wisdom and modern techniques for healing and creating a life you love.

Christian has worked alongside the well-known thought leader, Gregg Braden, and has shared his message and techniques across the globe—including the Middle East, Europe, Mexico, Canada, and all over the USA. He has shared his message with business people, thought-leaders, princesses, athletes and celebrities, students, and everyday seekers of a better way of life.  Visit his website at www.breathflow.com.

Learn more about R. Christian Minson and Breathflow here!

Website: www.breathflow.com
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Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Fawn: Why Smart Women Ignore Red Flags with Nischa Phair

Fawn: Why Smart Women Ignore Red Flags with Nischa Phair

February 27, 2022

You’ve probably heard of fight, flight, or freeze, but did you know that fawning (going out of your way to please someone) is also a trauma response? While fawning is a common stress response for many women, it’s especially prevalent after infidelity or betrayal. Learn how to identify, manage, and stop fawning behaviors so you can create and hold better, more authentic boundaries.

Top take-a-ways:

  • Why so many women claim the “don’t like sex,” and how to reclaim and reorient to pleasure by understanding the difference between the “stress management mode” and the “pleasure production mode.”
  • Reveling in the pride of surviving your trauma and releasing shame when you wake up one day and wonder, “How did this happen?” by understanding that fawning in a biological stress response (not an emotional defect) that it is trained into us as women, as our instincts are slowly trained out.
  • The reasons why we can’t see red flags in relationships until it’s too late, and why we explain away unhealthy, toxic masculinity and behaviors.
  • Top tip! The power of the “Somatic Pause” (which is a body-full, instead of mindful break) and how to incorporate little moments of pleasure throughout the day.
  • How pleasure helps us see the truth of who we are and what we need to do to heal ourselves and feel better.

Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed sex educator and the founder of SomaBody Trauma-Informed Pleasure Work. She works with survivors and those recovering from unhealthy relationships to help them reclaim a nourishing, authentic and soulfully-aligned relationship to pleasure that supports them to live more purposefully in every area of their lives.

Her book, Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes is the first book to be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: How can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, post-pandemic reality? Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, Fawn is a rousing and heartfelt call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more integrity and intention into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long-term. Learn more at: https://www.nischaphair.com

 

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

What is Betrayal? Discover its Causes, Symptoms & Solutions

What is Betrayal? Discover its Causes, Symptoms & Solutions

February 20, 2022

Whether your betrayal was recent or several years back, being betrayed makes you feel like your insides have been shattered. Like you will never recover, feel happy, or find joy again. But despite the way you feel right now, betrayal can make you stronger. If you choose to let it.

Top take-a-ways:

  • What is betrayal? – From its definition, cause, examples, and repercussions.
  • Discover the root cause of most betrayal and why being betrayed is part of being human.
  • Learn why, when someone betrays you, it says nothing about you and everything about them.
  • Explore why, even when it comes to infidelity, people who cheat do so because of their own vulnerabilities, fear, shame or even lack of integrity and not because of you.
  • Become aware of the symptoms of betrayal and how to overcome them, even if you don’t think you can.

Read Lora’s full blog on Recovering & Thriving After Infidelity Lora is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love.

 

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Love Addiction: What you Need to Know – With Giovanna Capozza

Love Addiction: What you Need to Know – With Giovanna Capozza

February 17, 2022

Love is a good thing, right? Not when the longing for love turns out to be a Love Addiction. This Valentine’s Day, stop recycling the same relationship drama & disappointments, heal the past, dissolve the old patterns that are keeping you stuck, and finally find the love you deserve.

Top take-a-ways:

  • Hitting your “relationship rock bottom” and how to feel better and move on when you feel heartbroken and hopeless.
  • How love addiction impacts your life, relationships, and ambitions, and how to understand the difference between love addiction, being a hopeless romantic, and love sickness so you can break free once and for all.
  • Why the health and strength of your relationship is not up to you alone, and how to let go of shame, grief, and feeling like a failure when your partner has betrayed you.
  • Answering the question, “How much am I willing to put up with and for how long?” The importance of trusting your gut and having compassion for your wounded partner while still protecting yourself.
  • Why not-enoughness, and being unlovable are part of the human condition and why you don’t need to heal fully before you find your ideal love.

Giovanna helps her clients understand and heal their unhealthy relationship patterns and past so that they can enjoy the deep, fulfilling, secure and healthy relationship we all deserve. With more than twelve years of leadership and coaching experience, along with a certification in Mind-Body Therapy, trainings through the Gottman Institute and Giovanna’s own personal experience in healing from Love Addiction she helps her clients develop a rock-solid relationship with themselves and helps them navigate and remove their blocks to getting the love they crave.

Default Alt Tag for this pageGiovanna’s debut memoir Lovewell, Confessions of a Lovesick Woman is being released on Valentine’s Day 2022 and is available for preorder right now!

Learn more about Giovanna, her book and her work at: https://www.giovannacapozza.com/

Sign up for FREE at www.BurnoutOrBetrayal.com

I can’t wait for everything this year has in store for you!!!

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Emotional Detox Now: Feel & Heal Your Pain – With Sherianna Boyle

Emotional Detox Now: Feel & Heal Your Pain – With Sherianna Boyle

February 9, 2022

Without question, infidelity and betrayal flood your body with a variety of difficult sensations and make you feel icky and uncomfortable. When that happens, it’s all too common to seek to numb our painful feelings, strike out and hurt others, or spiral into anxiety and overwhelm. But it doesn’t have to be that way! This show teaches you how to healthily feel and process your emotions instead of numbing and hiding from them.

Top take-a-ways:

  • The difference between reacting, (unconscious actions we take to try to make the uncomfortable, comfortable) and feeling & healing (using conscious tools to process your difficult emotions) without re-traumatizing yourself.
  • The C.L.E.A.N.S.E. process, a daily 7-step process for detoxifying your emotions and creating peace, calm and better health.
  • Why love is the only true emotion and everything else is a reaction.
  • How to invite your partner, friends, family, and even your co-workers into a simple emotional detox practice that will improve interactions and create healthier connection.
  • Banishing anxiety for good by understanding that anxiety is simply an emotion looking to be processed that you aren’t letting yourself feel.
  • How to own your own discomfort, even when that discomfort comes from somebody else’s stuffthat’s bothering you.

Sherianna Boyle is an international, Emotional Detox Coach®, author of nine books, including her most recent Emotional Detox Now: 135 Practices to Renew Your Mind, Heart & Spirit (Feb 2022), Emotional Detox and Emotional Detox for Anxiety. Sherianna has been featured in over eighty-five articles, and a featured presenter for renowned organizations such as: PESI® Behavioral and Mental Health Education, Kripalu Health & Yoga Center, 1440 Multiversity University and more. Her book, The Four Gifts of Anxiety, was endorsed by the National Association of Mental Health. She is an adjunct Psychology Professor and founder of Emotional Detox Coaching® servicing clients (of all ages background and abilities) virtually world wide. She is the host of Emotional Detox Now Podcast.

 

Join Sherianna, Lora, and 40 other experts in the FREE, Worldwide Emotional Detox NOW Summit Designed to get the world feeling again and shake up the world!

The event lasts for 5 days and begins on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2022
Register HERE at www.emotionaldetoxnow.com

 

I can’t wait for everything this year has in store for you!!!

Betrayal, Celebration, and How to Make 2022 Your Best Year Yet

Betrayal, Celebration, and How to Make 2022 Your Best Year Yet

February 9, 2022

Between your personal betrayal, the pandemic, climate crises such as fires, droughts, floods, and a volcano (seriously, a volcano?) and our hyper-stressful political/cultural scene, it’s my guess that like me, you have been REALLY UNSETTLED and REALLY STRESSED OUT. What I want for you in 2022, is for you to regain your sense of peace, play, receptivity, and power.

I want you to spend 2022 chilling the frick out, reconnecting to Spirit, and playing with me!

Here’s what I have planned out for us in 2022, and why:

  • We will meet informally once per month over zoom, on or near the full moon. Whether it’s a book club, sacred ceremony, a women’s circle, meditation, or a dance, cooking, or craft experience, the purpose of each event is to raise your frequency so you can feel really good again about yourself and life in general, and manifest exactly what you want in 2022. Including a healing from betrayal.
  • This is not about work or sacrifice or doing more. It’s about receiving, playing, dropping your cover, and being exactly who you are in the most authentic way possible. This year, let go of the idea that you are broken and need to be fixed, and commit to the idea that you are perfect, and simply need to play!
  • Our first event is a Book Club, reading Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection. We will meet via zoom on January 31st, (the day after my birthday!) from 6-7 PM MST. That’s 5 PST and 8 EST. Here is the link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81678839200
  • Imagine how good you could feel, how happy you would be, and what life could look like at this time next year if you had remained conscious, kept your vibration high, connected, and been happy, receptive, and accountable for your own joy and manifestations. Imagine what it would be lie to be healed and through this betrayal experience. Well, you can be!

Say you will join me for a year of positivity, fun, connection, and joy!

Join in the fun and make 2022 your hear of healing, joy and connection. Get your free guide “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day and How to Stop,” and you will automatically be entered for your year of fun!

Sign up for FREE at www.BurnoutOrBetrayal.com

I can’t wait for everything this year has in store for you!!!

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

The Legal Implications of Infidelity: What you Need to Know – With Kim Willoughby

The Legal Implications of Infidelity: What you Need to Know – With Kim Willoughby

January 23, 2022

Have you ever wondered about the divorce process or whether there were other legal remedies that could help you navigate infidelity? This show will teach you what it is like to work with an attorney, what the legal system can and cannot do to help you, and how you can use a variety of legal remedies to help you secure your finances, future, and family. The legal process can be very intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be! Join family and estate planning attorney Kim Willoughby as she walks you through a variety of basic remedies and options for those facing infidelity or betrayal.

Top take-a-ways:

  • The difference between pre-nuptial, post-nuptial, and other types of marital contracts or agreements.
  • How marital agreements can protect you, your finances, and relationships after infidelity.
  • “No-fault” divorce vs “fault” divorce and whether infidelity matters in the eyes of the law.
  • Navigating the “free consultation” with a lawyer – how to prepare and what you need to know.
  • Estate Planning: What is it, what can it accomplish, and why is it important especially when infidelity and betrayal is involved.
  • The overarching importance of mental health before, during, and after the divorce process and why managing your mental state is the best way to control legal cost.

Kimberly R. Willoughby has been practicing law in Colorado since 1994 and has earned a reputation as one of the premier family law attorneys in the state. She is licensed in both Colorado and South Dakota. Kim is the only rostered attorney in the United States who is a Fellow of both the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) and American College of Trust and Estate Counsel (ACTEC).

Learn more about Kim Willoughby, divorce, marriage agreements, estate planning, and the intersection of your situation & all things legal at: https://willoughbylaw.com/kim-willoughby/

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Because Healthy Marriage Matters: Creating the Relationship you Deserve - With Austin & Rachel Holt

Because Healthy Marriage Matters: Creating the Relationship you Deserve - With Austin & Rachel Holt

January 15, 2022

It’s my hunch that like Austin and Rachel Holt, you have read books, prayed hard, and have gone through some sort of marital or relationship counseling. But despite learning about how to budgets, expectations in sex, or how to formulate a parenting plan, you came head-to-head with a very real - and problematic situation: Even though you were in love, your deepest hurts, unhealed wounds and unconscious patterns (and those of your partner) reared their ugly heads and sabotaged your relationship. Whether it was infidelity or another kind of betrayal, there was trouble, and suddenly you felt like you were in over your head...

 

Top take-a-ways:

  • How the “Divine setup” in marriage and the IMAGO match can help you find each other again and heal once and for all.
  • The difference between “being willing” and “to will” and why the idea of “You can heal your marriage all alone!” is a marketing tactic that does not work long term.
  • Why having agreements, not expectations in a marriage (or any relationships) is the best way to stay healthy, safe, and happy.
  • Creating a life that is designed around healthy connection, love, and mutual growth – no matter how badly your relationship has gotten off track, and the power of third party objectivity.
  • Phrasing your feelings in terms of “inarguable truth,” so your partner will finally hear (and understand) you!
  • Simple practices that keep marriages together for the long haul and the power of knowing what values your marriage stands for.

Supporting married couples in healing, transformation, and intimate connection in their marriage, Austin and Rachel Holt are one of the only Big Leap Certified husband and wife teams in the world. They possess an undeniable passion and joy in supporting couples to create fun, blissful, and drama-free marriages through powerful tools, personal healing, simple mindset shifts, and the unconditional love of God. Through their brand Because Marriage Matters, they've created marriage products, in-person events, online programs, and communities that help couples all over the world. Their unique approach includes elements from their Christian Faith, The Hendricks Institute, IMAGO therapy, Mindfulness, interpersonal neurobiology, Gottman research and more.

 

Learn more about Austin, Rachel and Because Marriage Matters at https://becausemarriagematters.com/

 

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love.

If you are ready to strip down & soar, then download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com so you can untangle yourself from the past, reclaim the present, and create the future on your own terms.

All with a wink and a smile!

 

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